How to Talk to Your Child about their Neurodevelopmental Assessment

It is essential to be transparent with your child prior to their neurodevelopmental assessment. This ensures that the experience is positive and the assessment accurately reflects your child. Here are some tips that can help guide conversations.

1. Explain What the Assessment Is in Simple Terms

Use clear, straightforward language to help your child understand what will happen.

For example:"We are going to see some professionals (adult helpers) who will chat with you, maybe ask you to do some activities, and learn more about how your brain works. This helps us understand how to support you better."  

Remind your child that this is a positive step and that it will help the adults around them to support them better. Reassure them that it is not something to worry about.

2. Focus on Their Strengths and Talents as well as the Challenges

Describe the challenges you have noticed that will be explored in the assessment. Remember to also highlight what your child does well, so they know that the focus is not just about challenges.

For example:"You are so clever and creative and have lots of interesting ideas. Recently, I have noticed that you seem to be finding school harder and you don't seem to enjoy it as much. The appointment is there to help us understand what might be going on and for me and your teachers to be able to make things easier for you".

3. Normalise the Process and Emphasise Support

Help your child see that many children go through similar assessments and that there are people there to help.

Example:"Lots of children see professionals (adult helpers) to understand themselves better. If you’re unsure or worried, it’s okay to tell them how you feel—they’re there to support you."

4. Acknowledge Feelings and Concerns

It is normal for children to have worries or questions. Offer reassurance that you will be there to support them if needed.

You could say:"It’s okay to feel a little nervous or unsure. If you’re feeling like that, let me know. I’ll be there as well, and we can talk about anything you want."  

Encouraging them to share their feeling can help reduce anxiety.

5. Reassure Them You’re There to Support Whatever the Outcome

Remind your child that this is not a test and that there are no right or wrong answers. Reassure them that you love them regardless of the outcome and that you will be with them throughout the process.

For example:"I love you no matter what, and I’ll be there with you every step of the way. This is just a way to understand how to help you with things you find difficult."

Extra Tips for Parents and Caregivers:

• Keep your tone calm and straightforward.

• Use visuals or simple stories if it helps your child understand better.

• Reassure them they are safe and loved, and their feelings are normal.

• Be honest but gentle to build trust.

  
  

Remember:

Discussing the assessment openly helps your child feel less anxious and more supported. Being honest and understanding enables them to approach the process with increased confidence, which means they will gain the most from it.